One of the areas that I’ve been starting to focus on with my porn addiction education is podcasts and radio shows that have a spiritual or religious audience. Most of them are Christian, which is perfect, because the statistics around Christians who use pornography far outpace that of the secular world.
I was a leery to enter this space for a long time. I was raised Catholic, but don’t really subscribe to a lot of the doctrine and dogma. Watching from the sidelines for a couple of years though, most of the religious people who write about porn addiction are still using shame and God’s judgment as motivation to quit. That just doesn’t work. You can pray away addiction as effectively as you pray away cancer.
The rates of use among Christians is fairly staggering. Here are a few numbers from the Barna Group and Covenant Eyes:
- 68% of men who attend church on a regular basis and 50% of pastors report viewing pornography on a regular basis. Among the 18 to 24-year-olds, it’s 76%
- 87% of Christian women said they have watched pornography at least once.
- 70% of youth pastors say they have had a teen tell them that they have a pornography issue in the last month.
- 57% of pastors say porn addiction is the most damaging issues to their congregation, while only 7% say their church has a program to help people struggling with pornography.
These are numbers that reflect a population that needs help. Both the clergy and the followers have been raised in an institution that preaches sexual sin is among the worst. Despite various forms of repentance is different denominations, it’s human nature not to admit the problem in the first place for fear of the fallout, embarrassment and shame.
For the Christian people out there struggling with pornography, if your church is unwilling or unequipped to help you, seek assistance outside. Simply because somebody doesn’t worship the same way that you do, or doesn’t worship at all, does not mean that they can’t help you overcome your personal demons.
Porn addiction does not make you a bad person. It makes you an ill person who can take the proper steps to get better. Having a strong faith and belief system will only be a plus in the process, but you can’t let that belief system be a hurdle to getting healthy.
If there is anything I can do to help any Christian or clergy member out there, please don’t hesitate to contact me.
I liked that you mentioned belief as a plus while taking steps to change somethings in your life. I think that is a more helpful message than to shame people for their problems.
I also believe that among the most manipulative, shame is a great method of distraction from one’s on problems. If I’m getting you to focus on what’s wrong with you, you can’t focus on what’s wrong with me.
Very true on different levels. Shame is a complicated matter. There is so much more strength to be found when you can overcome the initial shame. Shame isolates people and keeps them divided I guess. Some ‘taboos’ are ment to be from ‘earlier’ days and are not fitting for 2020 anymore.
The child sexual abuse scandal in the Catholic Church is a great example of how making sexual expression taboo except within very narrow confines leads to natural sexual urges being expressed in very twisted ways.
Celebrate Recovery is a safe place for Christians (and non) to go and not be told your shame and guilt will enable you to overcome porn addiction (or any other, for that matter). What heals is becoming involved in a group of accountability partners who know what you’re dealing with and can help you work a sensible program that will lead you to better know and trust the greatest healer in existence – Jesus Christ. I speak as one who’s been enslaved by porn and found freedom from it through His ministry, CR. Google it. There’s one within driving distance near you.